Yah, yah, you’re thinking, every blog about moms says “relax“.
You’re right. But here’s what I mean when I say “take a break”. I’m not referring to: getting a massage, having tea with a friend or watching the sunset (though I highly recommend all those things) . I’m talking about taking a momentum break.
- Trying desperately to feel “like yourself” and “get your body back” postpartum?
- Trying desperately to get pregnant – in any way possible – and feeling on the verge of giving up/losing it/hiding somewhere?
- Trying desperately to plan for an empowered birth when there are voices, tv shows, friends, parents, care providers, blogs and your own fears telling you it’s impossible and you’re not feeling that great anyway so who has the energy to plan something as grand as “empowering”?
Your Mama Wellness Tip this week: put it down. Walk away. With a time limit.
- I will work on getting my body in my pre-pregnancy pants in exactly two weeks.
- I will have sex to get pregnant in exactly two cycles.
- I will write my birth plan in three days.
Why does the time limit matter? It helps to relieve that boiling pressure that’s building with each moment you don’t see the fruition of your desires. And it helps you to feel safe (you haven’t abandoned your goal forever, you’ve just put it down temporarily).
Ever notice how some couples get pregnant when they stop trying, even after years? How some pregnancies seem to improve when we unplug from what everyone around us is telling us to do or try? How some women “get their body back” (oh how I hate that phrase, but you know what I mean) without trying? It’s called letting go.
One study even found that women undergoing IVF cycles were more likely to get pregnant when they used “emotion-focused coping (EFC)”. The authors found that “letting go is positively associated with risk of pregnancy”.
In the yoga world we us a word called prana. This refers to the life force within you. What keeps you alive, what makes your heart beat and your soul inspired. When we run ourselves ragged chasing after something (especially something we may not have control over) we become prana deficient. We increase prana by taking a break. Breathing more (that’s why those breathing techniques are called pranayama), eating more whole foods, sleeping more. Essentially, we restore. Taking a momentum break will help to restore prana (not to mention benefit relationships, help you see what your true desires are, and connect with God.)
Give it a try. What do you have to lose?